Part 6
Threatening With Divorce
Translated
By Abbas Abu Yahya
Taken from
The Fatawa of the Senior Scholars
Shaykh AbdulAziz bin Baz
Shaykh Muhammad Nasiruddeen Al-Albaani
Shaykh Muhammad bin Salih al-Uthaymeen
Shaykh Salih al-Fawzan
Translated
By
Abbas Abu Yahya
The Fatawa of the Senior Scholars
Part Six
Shaykh AbdulAziz bin Baz
6 – What is your advice for someone who takes oaths a lot that he will divorce his wife?
Shaykh AbdulAziz bin Baz
Question:
I have a relative who has been married for thirty years, and he takes oaths a lot to divorce for any issue. He says to his wife, if you do not do such and such, then you are not allowed for me; or he says, it is necessary to divorce you if you did such and such despite him not intending to divorce her. In fact, he says this due to being extremely angry. What is your advice noble Shaykh? May Allaah reward you with good.
The Answer:
What is legislated is to advise this man and to educate him to leave off this type of action, so that he does not use the word divorce and you are prohibited for me.
He should be advised and directed to goodness, as for if the divorce occurred or did not occur then this is a point of contention. If the aim was to threaten and to prevent something, or to scare her then he must make an expiation for taking an oath of divorcing his wife which did not take place.
If the wife opposed the husband he may say, if you do such and such you are divorced, or you are prohibited for me and she actually opposed him, but he intended to threaten and warn and discourage her, then he has to expiate the oath, which is feeding ten needy people or clothing them.
Feeding each one of the ten half as-Sa’a, meaning, one and a half kilos of wheat, or rice, or dates, or feed them an evening meal in your home, or lunch in your home, or in a restaurant no problem. Or give them clothing, meaning clothing to ten people, this is expiation for an oath. This is what is necessary.
However, he should be advised not to pursue these matters, in fact he should cure matters without divorce. Without making his wife prohibited for him, by using good speech, persuasion and dissuasion without divorce and making his wife prohibited for him.
If he pronounced divorce and had intended divorce then the divorce occurs, due to what she opposed of what he had stipulated upon her, and she becomes prohibited for him.
However, if it was such that the aim was only to threaten her and warn her and dissuade her and not with the aim of divorcing her, then this is as what preceded, that he must expiate for an oath if it is opposed. If she opposed him and did not fulfil what he said, therefore, he has to expiate an oath, which is feeding ten needy people, or clothing them or freeing a slave, and if he is too weak or too poor and cannot possibly do that then he fasts three days.’
https://al-fatawa.com/fatwa/80039
Arabic Reference
6 ما التوجيه لمن يكثر الحلف بالطلاق
الشيخ عبدالعزيز ابن باز
السؤال:
رسالة وصلت إلى البرنامج من المستمع خير الله درهم عايد، أبو التوم، من جمهورية مصر العربية، يقول: لي قريب متزوج من ثلاثين سنة، وهو كثير الحلف بالطلاق على أي شيء، يقول لزوجته: إذا لم تفعلي كذا، فأنت محرمة عليّ، أو يقول: طلاق منك لازم تفعلي كذا، رغم أنه لا ينوي طلاقها، بل من شدة الزعل، فما هو توجيه سماحتكم؟
جزاكم الله خيرًا.
الجواب:
المشروع أن ينصح هذا الرجل، ويعلم حتى يدع هذا التصرف، وحتى لا يستعمل الطلاق والتحريم، ينصح ويوجه إلى الخير، أما كونه يقع أو لا يقع هذا محل نظر؛ إن كان قصده التهديد والمنع والتخويف فعليه كفارة يمين، ولا يقع، إذا خالفته قال: إن فعلت كذا فأنت طالق، أو محرمة فخالفته، وهو قصده التهديد والتحذير والترهيب، فإن عليه كفارة يمين، وهي إطعام عشرة مساكين أو كسوتهم، عشرة كل واحد يعطى نصف الصاع، يعني: كيلو ونصف من الحنطة، أو من الرز، أو من التمر، أو تعشيه في البيت، أو تغديه في البيت، أو في المطعم لا بأس، أو يعطى كسوة يعني: عشرة، كفارة اليمين، هذا هو الذي ينبغي، ولكن ينصح ألا يتعاطى هذه الأمور بل يعالج الأمور بغير الطلاق، وبغير التحريم بالكلام الطيب، والترغيب والترهيب بدون الطلاق وبدون التحريم.
فإن طلق يريد إيقاع الطلاق يقع الطلاق إذا خالفت شرطه، ويقع التحريم إذا خالفت شرطه، أما إذا كان المقصود تهديدها وتحذيرها وترهيبها فقط، ليس قصده الطلاق، فهذا مثلما تقدم، فيه كفارة يمين عند المخالفة، إذا خالفته ولم تنفذ ما قال، فعليه كفارة يمين، وهي إطعام عشرة مساكين، أو كسوتهم، أو تحرير رقبة، فإن كان عاجزًا فقيرًا لا يقدر، صام ثلاثة أيام، نعم.
المقدم: جزاكم الله خيرًا.
https://al-fatawa.com/fatwa/80039